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San Francisco to cover sex change surgeries for all uninsured transgender residents

Fri, 01 Feb 2013 18:28:48 -0500

San Francisco to cover sex change surgeries for all uninsured transgender residents:

stfuconservatives:

“In 2001, San Francisco became the first city in the country to cover the cost of sex change surgeries for transgender city employees. In 2007, it became the first city in the country to provide health care for all uninsured residents through its Healthy San Francisco program.

Now, San Francisco is combining those firsts into yet another pioneering move by becoming the first city in the country to cover the cost of gender reassignment surgeries for its uninsured transgender residents.

The Department of Public Health has long been on the cutting-edge of providing medical care for transgender patients. It established a special clinic for them in 1994 and offers hormone therapy, counseling and primary care services.

But the city’s health regulations excluded coverage for gender reassignment surgeries, and the department hasn’t employed surgeons capable of performing them.

That’s about to change thanks in large part to advocacy from the city’s Transgender Law Centerand Supervisor Scott Wiener who quietly introduced legislation at the Board of Supervisors over the summer encouraging the health department to remove the exclusion from its code.

“Healthy San Francisco was discriminating against transgender people by denying them medically necessary health care,” Wiener said.”

bless my hometown.

myemotionalsanctuary: omg that’s fucking perfect.

Tue, 08 Jan 2013 00:26:23 -0500

myemotionalsanctuary:

omg that’s fucking perfect.

Lex in Flux: Names and pronouns.

Tue, 08 Jan 2013 00:23:22 -0500

Lex in Flux: Names and pronouns.:

lexarcher:

I’m not one to ask for favors if I can avoid it. And this one really isn’t. It’s not a favor as in, please oh please, just this once, just for me. I’m asking this as a simple request to you from me:

Try harder. Try to get my name right. Try to use the correct pronouns. Try not to call me she, girl, or lady, or whatever. Don’t be afraid of mistakes, but please understand that these things are not easy for me to hear. And that I may laugh it off in the moment and say it’s okay, but it really isn’t, for me. It actually cuts pretty deep.

Practice if you have to. Say to yourself “that’s Lex, I met him a long time ago. He was my classmate/colleague/roommate/friend of a friend’s friend.”

I haven’t wanted to confront this even though it’s come up a lot lately. I don’t want to make anyone feel bad. And it’s not offensive to me if you get it wrong in a superficial, “now I’m angry at you because you didn’t do this silly thing for me” kind of way. It’s a reminder to me that this isn’t entirely real to you yet. You are still on the fence, or stuck in a memory, or just have more going on in your life than this whole thing with me.

As I’m writing this I am feeling like it may sound whiny, or passive aggressive, or something like this. So let me explain further what this is like, and why I felt I needed to put all this out there, get it off my chest. I get up in the morning and I get ready and do my best to represent myself to the world as I want to be seen. I know there are things about my appearance, my mannerisms, my voice, that might not be exactly what I’d like them to be, but I do try my damnedest. Some days I think I am at least sort of close to how I’d like to present to the world, and I go out and a stranger in a store calls me ma’am, or, like what happened to me this weekend, comments on my “boobs.” And I feel like, well fuck. I guess today I do not appear to others as I truly am. But I can cut these strangers a little slack because they don’t know me, and they might not know from how I look exactly how I identify (which is not to say that someone’s gender expression is equivalent to their gender identity—in other words, how someone presents may not always line up with how they feel about themselves. The issue with me is that I was indifferent to people reading me as female for a long time, but now it bothers me more. But it was just as incorrect then as it is now.). So although it’s not easy to take and generally depresses me at least a little, I can let it go more easily.

Now. That is when a stranger does it. I get self-conscious, I get dysphoric, I get over it eventually. When someone who actually knows me does this, it’s a whole different ballgame. The thing is that it’s not just about remembering what to call me. It is a matter of understanding something fundamental about who I am. I have tried to be as open and candid as possible about everything, and I don’t know how else to say this.

So I am asking you to really look, and to see me for who I am. I am asking you to try harder to understand that I need you to say Lennox, him, his, he. I need you to do this like you need me to call you your given name or the name you prefer, and use the pronouns that you feel comfortable with, whether they be masculine or feminine or neither or both.

I really do need you to try harder.

On the other side of all of that, when you do say the right things to me, it’s kind of the opposite of everything I mentioned before. It’s affirming, it’s empowering, it lets me know that you understand me, and I can’t express how grateful I am every time it happens. It still feels a little bit like a dream come true, that I am actually living this life, and out in the open.

So again, I ask you, I implore you, try try try as hard as you can to get it right.

simply-drake: beauty-of-imperfection: dontforget-iloveyou: ...

Fri, 04 Jan 2013 17:59:17 -0500

simply-drake:

beauty-of-imperfection:

dontforget-iloveyou:

eventually—she—gave—up:

itsgoingtobeokay-justnottoday:

1800chokethath0e:

um if you don’t reblog this

anyday, anywhere.

yes, definitely.

without a doubt.

already am

seeminglydeepstatement: somefantasticallies: vivalatrench: mrsugarpink: rapewhistled: followmeho...

Sat, 29 Dec 2012 09:57:42 -0500

seeminglydeepstatement:

somefantasticallies:

vivalatrench:

mrsugarpink:

rapewhistled:

followmehome:

It’s not “bacon,” it’s a pig.

It’s not “veal,” it’s a calf.

It’s not “steak,” it’s a cow.

It’s not “meat,” it’s an animal…

its not “fruit”, its dividing cells that accumulate fructose…

it’s not delivery. it’s digiorno.

It’s not a scene, it’s a god damn arms race

It’s not “levioSA”, it’s “leviOsa”

Maybe it’s Maybelline

"Okay, so here's why girls don't get flattered when guys comment on their bodies."

Sat, 08 Dec 2012 01:28:39 -0500

everythingsavengers:

pilgrim—soul:

Read More

Reblog for a creepy compliment in your ask.

Wed, 28 Nov 2012 01:36:41 -0500

mazeofambivalence: size10plz: girl-bear: campaignofdistraction...

Wed, 28 Nov 2012 01:34:43 -0500

mazeofambivalence:

size10plz:

girl-bear:

campaignofdistractions:

“The monetary cost for a rape victim to receive treatment at a hospital in the United States.”

EVERYONE

EVERYONE

EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW ABOUT THIS

This is why I don’t get why people are against universal healthcare. :\

Total should be FREE.

Photo

Tue, 27 Nov 2012 21:46:47 -0500

Hovering Sombrero: [tw: transmisogyny] FUCK YOU RUPAUL

Tue, 27 Nov 2012 11:28:50 -0500

Hovering Sombrero: [tw: transmisogyny] FUCK YOU RUPAUL:

kethera:

foreverqueird:

green-street-politics:

highfemmelowbrow:

Fuck you for perpetuating the use of derogatory language towards trans women.

Fuck you for saying the only difference between a drag queen and a trans woman is “$25,000 and a good surgeon”, but also contractually excluding then from being contestants on your show.

Fuck you for not considering or caring that a lot of people watch your show who will believe whatever you say about queer and trans people because they don’t actually know any outside of tv.

Fuck you for pretending you care about being a role model for queer youth, and then dehumanizing certain queer identities that you deem it appropriate to make fun of.

Fuck you for thinking you have the agency to spread such hate under the guise of a joke because you’re a gay male and a drag queen.

Fuck you for making it ok for your viewers to repeat the hateful things you say.

Fuck you for perpetuating transmisogyny in gay communities.

Fuck you for validating gay men across the country who think it’s cool to throw around the word tr***y as an insult to one’s appearance.

Fuck you for making anyone who’s ever invalidated a trans woman feel comfortable in that decision.

Fuck you for encouraging your cast and viewers to make hookers the punch line in many a joke.

Fuck you for only ever talking about sex workers in a negative light.

Fuck you for not trying to educate your viewers as to where drag came from, and paying homage to the hookers and trans women who paved the way in the ball community.

Fuck you for pandering to straight people and giving them license to use queer language.

Fuck you for having Dan Savage on your show and displaying him as a beacon of the gay community when he’s even a worse spokesperson for queers than you.

But basically, fuck you for being one of the most visible gay icons and acting as such a shitty representative for us and using your fame to perpetuate stereotypes that get people bullied and killed on a regular basis.

,

THANK YOU FOR THIS POST!!!

RuPaul, Dan Savage, please… fuck off now.

reblog all day errday

thecosmic-dance: nigeriantomboy: WoW! pretty fucking...

Mon, 26 Nov 2012 22:17:27 -0500

thecosmic-dance:

nigeriantomboy:

WoW!

pretty fucking much

What is pretty much every country in the Western Hemisphere, Alex?

The Not-so-Cliché-world of W.: seenthecolorsfade: Let’s play “Never Have I Ever”. Cross out all of...

Sun, 25 Nov 2012 22:30:31 -0500

The Not-so-Cliché-world of W.: seenthecolorsfade: Let’s play “Never Have I Ever”. Cross out all of...:

seenthecolorsfade:

Let’s play “Never Have I Ever”. Cross out all of the things that you have done. You might just see that there are people just like you out there.

Sexual

~~Never have I ever had a boyfriend/girlfriend.~~

~~Never have I ever kissed a girl.~~

Never have I ever kissed a boy.

~~Never have I ever received/given a blowjob, hand job, eating out.~~

~~Never have I ever had sex.~~

~~Never have I ever fallen in love.~~

Never have I ever cheated on someone.

~~Never have I ever been cheated on.~~

~~Never have I ever sexted.~~

Life

~~Never have I ever gotten into a fight.~~

~~Never have I ever done something illegal.~~

~~Never have I ever gotten wasted.~~

~~Never have I ever used an illegal drug.~~

~~Never have I ever snuck out.~~

~~Never have I ever stolen something.~~

~~Never have I ever vandalized something.~~

~~Never have I ever lost a family member due to death.~~

~~Never have I ever been in a life or death situation.~~

Never have I ever been arrested.

Never have I ever been fired from a job.

Emotions

~~Never have I ever wanted to kill someone because in the moment I hated them that much.~~

~~Never have I ever been kept up at night due to guilt.~~

~~Never have I ever laughed so hard I cried.~~

~~Never have I ever been abused physically.~~

~~Never have I ever cried myself to sleep.~~

~~Never have I ever wished that I was someone else.~~

~~Never have I ever wanted to kill myself.~~

~~Never have I ever tried to kill myself.~~

~~Never have I ever felt like an outcast.~~

~~Never have I ever wanted to do something just so I would fit in.~~

Friendships

~~Never have I ever ruined my friendship with someone.~~

~~Never have I ever had a friend leave me for other people.~~

~~Never have I ever been kicked out of a friend group.~~

~~Never have I ever wished that I had different friends.~~

~~Never have I ever wanted to fuck one of my friends. (whoops)~~

~~Never have I ever wished that I could be more than friends with someone.~~

~~Never have I ever wished I was friends with the popular people.~~

~~Never have I ever been friendless.~~

School

~~Never have I ever failed a test.~~

~~Never have I ever cut class.~~

~~Never have I ever had to eat alone.~~

~~Never have I ever failed a course.~~

~~Never have I ever been suspended.~~

~~Never have I ever received detention.~~

~~Never have I ever passed notes/texted in class.~~

~~Never have I ever made out with someone in school.~~

Never have I ever dropped out of school/college.

red. awshit

Wed, 21 Nov 2012 01:11:06 -0500

red. awshit

blackbutshining: fuckyeahmenfolk: Called it! I am interested to see where this...

Mon, 19 Nov 2012 12:05:18 -0500

blackbutshining:

fuckyeahmenfolk:

Called it!

I am interested to see where this goes!

pleasedon’tfuckitup

publicshaming: HAHA obama just said he doesn’t believe in handouts. Apparently you haven’t been...

Mon, 19 Nov 2012 12:02:06 -0500

publicshaming:

HAHA obama just said he doesn’t believe in handouts. Apparently you haven’t been in Kroger the first week of every month
— Kayla Jane (@kay_lah11) October 17, 2012

Love seeing all the college kids filling up their parents grocery carts because we’re too poor to buy stuff ourselves #true #thanksmommy
— Kayla Jane (@kay_lah11) September 30, 2012

The Not-so-Cliché-world of W.: Bisexual is a more inclusive term than Pansexual.

Sat, 17 Nov 2012 23:28:42 -0500

The Not-so-Cliché-world of W.: Bisexual is a more inclusive term than Pansexual.:

world-of-whit:

burnsietransitioning:

I hear people get onto the bisexual label as not being inclusive of trans people, but I find this problematic in several ways. It implies that trans men and women exist outside of the gender binary, and most trans people I’ve met just want to be seen as members of their target gender. Sure there are those people that identify as genderqueer, and I guess for some reason they want to be seen as some third gender, but when the average passerby sees them they either categorize them as a man or a woman. If you are attracted to both sexes and see trans men and women as men and women then bisexual is the correct label. If you’re attracted to both genders but classify transgender people as some freakish third gender then I guess Pan is the label for you.

SERIOUSLY? Are you being serious?

Go fuck yourself.

“It implies that trans men and women exist outside of the gender binary.”

No it fucking doesn’t. Trans men are men, trans women are women. They are within the binary. Genderqueer? Genderfluid? Androgynous? Bigender? Trigender? Genderfuck? Yea, where the fuck do they go? Oh yea, they’re outside the binary. Thus “bisexual” doesn’t recognize or respect their gender. Thus “Pan” is the better choice since trans* people aren’t just males or female.

“Sure there are those people that identify as genderqueer, and I guess for some reason they want to be seen as some third gender.”

“I guess for some reason”? Quite possibly could it be the same reason that you, yourself, are trans*? No, that could never be the case. How could I be so ignorant?

“But when the average passerby sees them they either categorize them as a man or a woman.”

Glad to know that our gender identities are only valid if other people recognize them and address us as such.

“If you are attracted to both sexes and see trans men and women as men and women then bisexual is the correct label.”

Yea, bisexual is the correct label for that. Because you’re sticking to only being attracted within the binary. Plus you’re only recognizing and respecting people’s gender identities that are within the binary and then erasing the identities of people who fall outside the binary should you happen to be attracted to them. Plus there are more than two sexes, just like there are more than two genders. Amazing, right?

“If you’re attracted to both genders but classify transgender people as some freakish third gender then I guess Pan is the label for you.”

There are more than two genders. If you classify binary trans* people as a third gender then you’re a fucking cissexist prick; but if you classify a non-binary person’s gender as not being in the binary, you’re being a grade A respectful person.

Tl;dr Pansexual is great as it recognizes the fact that there are more than two genders and two sexes. However, if you as an individual aren’t attracted to people of all genders and sexes (pansexual), then polysexual is the term for you: it’s just like bisexual, but it recognizes that there are more than two genders and sexes.

And fuck you for calling non-binary people “freakish.”

You are fucking awesome please keep being this super awesomeness of awesome.

The Not-so-Cliché-world of W.: Tumblr trans; the dichotomy

Sat, 17 Nov 2012 22:34:38 -0500

The Not-so-Cliché-world of W.: Tumblr trans; the dichotomy:

world-of-whit:

burnsietransitioning:

This is just how I see the majority of the trans community on Tumblr

The obnoxious MtFs:

-“Look at my penis isn’t it so feminine? How dare you say after looking at my dick that I’m not a biological woman!”

-“I don’t pass at all and I haven’t started hormones yet but how dare all those CIS SCUM look at me funny for wearing a dress. Can’t they see I’m a woman!! WOMAN!

-“I identify as male but prefer female pronouns.”

Unfortunately for the Ftms though, it appears that the majority of what people would refer to as “transgenders” claim to be in their camp:

-“I’m a man but I’m going to show off my breasts in this super cute low cut top”

-“How dare they misgender me even though I’m not on T and was wearing a dress!”

-“Look at my vagina it’s SSOOO manly!”

-“I identify as male but I don’t have any gender dysphoria and prefer being seen as a woman”

Those are the first obnoxious statements from Tumblr Trans people that came to my head, if you think of more feel free to reblog and add stuff.

Here’s an addition to the list: Everything you just fucking wrote.

Hate to be the bearer of bad news, but you are the “obnoxious MtF.”

Now why is that?

For starters this entire post is based on a “trannier than thou” complex, where if a trans* person is not fitting into your schema of “how a trans* person should act,” they are then less of a trans* person.

You’re argue to deny non-binary trans* people their identities.

How the fuck is a trans woman’s penis not feminine, or a trans man’s vagina not masculine? I don’t have a have a pocket of masculinity surrounding my dick, just as another trans* person doesn’t have a pocket of what they were assigned at birth surrounding their genitals: A trans person’s genitals is just as feminine, masculine, androgynous, etc.. as the rest of them. They are wholly (body, mind, etc..) the gender they identify as. In addition to that biology is not destiny, there is a difference between sex and gender. And before you even start, a person’s genitals isn’t the only thing that determines their sex.

Moving on, quit bashing on people who haven’t been able to start their transition for who knows what reasons. Bring on hormones is a privilege, so go sit the fuck down and check your privilege.

Quit bashing on people who aren’t privileged enough to pass (as cis) by society’s standards. Again, if you pass as cis it’s a fucking privilege. Address this notion in yourself.

Quit ragging on people who love their body and parts of their body, even if it seems “wrong” to you.

Tic Tac Told. Knights of the Told Republic. The Road To Tolderado: The Lost City of Told.

This is literally a blog. LITERALLY.: crackerhell: taleth: nines19: protip: not everyone experiences...

Fri, 16 Nov 2012 10:12:52 -0500

This is literally a blog. LITERALLY.: crackerhell: taleth: nines19: protip: not everyone experiences...:

transgalacticwanderer:

heresmynumberkillmemaybe:

crackerhell:

taleth:

nines19:

protip: not everyone experiences triggers in the same way

protip: not all triggered states manifest as flashbacks

protip: PTSD is not the only condition that triggers exist for

There are people on tumblr who will fight with you on this.

I’m not one of them

there are white people on tumblr who will fight with you on this

I don’t understand what the problem with the original post is or what it has to do with race would someone mind explaining if it’s not too much trouble? Like I’m not saying it’s not problematic I just don’t see the problem.

same here, I really don’t why race would be a factor in these situations, I’ve run into a variety of douchebags who don’t respect triggers and race was never the primary distinction.

In my experience, Caucasians are the demographic least likely to understand privilege at all. Triggers do kind of come down to privilege in my opinion. However, this should probably be updated to “There are SAWCSMS that will fight you on this.” if it’s going to go in that vein. In my personal experience, at least, white people in general are the group that I have the hardest time explaining anything to, and are the most likely to argue back on something they don’t really understand. I’m not saying I agree with the original post making the white distinction (I still think SAWCSMS would be a better distinction), I’m just trying to extrapolate on their reasoning behind it a bit. Of course, anecdotal bias, and YMMV.

assemblyoftheincomplete: in-the-right: I like this. Oh yes to...

Thu, 15 Nov 2012 11:39:16 -0500

assemblyoftheincomplete:

in-the-right:

I like this.

Oh yes to pay for those ‘takers’ at the public trough aka rich old white guys on Medicare

Ok, that’s fine. I want my money back for funding that war I didn’t want to go to, and stuff. Registered Republicans can fit the bill for that, right? Right? That’s how this is going to work yes?

Just broke the 300 follower milestone.

Thu, 15 Nov 2012 00:57:04 -0500

world-of-whit:

Why the hell do you people follow me?

FELLOW TRANSGIRLS GET FOLLOWS YOLO OR SOMETHING?